Inconvenience

“We are dropping off some coffee and donuts at your door. We can just put it on the doorstep. Just wanted to give you a pick me up.”

A friend sent this text on the second morning of solo parenting while my husband was away for a conference.

“You really don’t have to” I started to type out, but paused and erased the message, opting for “Thank you! That is so kind.”

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I am learning that relationship grows on the other side of

I don’t want to bother

I don’t want to overstep

I don’t want to inconvenience

Relationships deepen

Not only with “I’d like to help”

But with “I need help”

Friendship is strengthened when you don’t have to say

“Sorry, it’s been busy lately”

But also when you can drop everything for a five minute phone call

Connection comes

When you lean in

And allow others in at the same time

Connections comes with give and take

Not just take

But not just give

Let the language of our friendships be

Generous with offers and requests

With tears and with smiles

Let us believe the best

In our presence and our absence

Let us inconvenience and be inconvenienced

With joy and hospitality

Let us be loving

not only polite

Kind not only nice

Let us be friends that stand closer than a brother

In good times and bad times

Knowing the bad will always give way to good

Being made better by the valleys that we traveled together